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APPROVED BRANDS The Tool Shed “More than your typical adult store, we provide quality, non-toxic and body-safe products that enhance the sexual lives and relationships of our customers, all in a comfortable, compassionate, and welcoming atmosphere. The Tool Shed is a place where people of all genders and sexual orientations can explore their sexuality in a positive environment and be treated with respect by a friendly and knowledgeable staff. Our team knows a lot about the toys and equipment we sell, and we frequently offer workshops and other events where our customers can learn more about a variety of sexuality and relationship topics.” Toolshedtoys.com

REQUEST A PROGRAM All programs offered both virtually and in person. Our programs include a mix of interactive activities, guided group discussion, and presentation by trained peer facilitators. Typically, programs last anywhere from 60 to 90 minutes, but we are happy to change the duration or modify the content with advanced notice. IF YOU ARE SEEKING TO REQUEST A SEX OUT LOUD PROGRAM, PLEASE CLICK Programs are scheduled during Sunday staff meetings! Depending on when your request is submitted, it may take up to ONE WEEK for a confirmation. Please plan accordingly with dates & times requested. Here Got more questions? Email Sexoutloud.program@gmail.com ETHICAL PORN (NEW) 90 Minutes Proper usage of barrier methods and safer sex practices Break down common assumptions/critiques of porn Understand what porn is and the key differences between ethical and mainstream porn Identify how fetishization and a lack of consent are perpetuated in mainstream pornography and challenge these ideas Practice media literacy with a focus on pornography in identifying how categories and visuals contribute to our viewing experience Challenge typical sexual scripts depicted in pornography SAFER SEX 90 Minutes Discussion and resource referral pertaining to sexual assault on UW campus Proper usage of barrier methods and safer sex practices Defining consent Interactive activities for bystander intervention Identifying and de-stigmatizing STIS STIs: testing & treatment activities Introduction to unplanned pregnancy and HIV ADVANCED PLEASURE 90 Minutes Proper usage of barrier methods and safer sex practices Science of sex positions Sex toys and how to use them Thinking outside the box in our sexual lives Communication tips & tricks for partners PLEASURE 90 Minutes Proper usage of barrier methods and safer sex practices Introduce the concept of sexual empowerment and pleasure Anatomical exploration of pleasure organs Explore sexual pleasure as a full body experience that includes all senses De-stigmatizing Sex and empowering personal autonomy Overview and preview of basic pleasure enhancing toys LGBTQIA+ 90 Minutes Proper usage of barrier methods and safer sex practices Introduction to identity and explore the nuances of assuming identity Understanding personal gender identity and societal constructions of gender Explore the embodied experience of Coming Out and reduce expectations and pressure pertaining to the experience of “Coming Out" 1-2 Hours SEX JEOPARDY Proper usage of barrier methods and safer sex practices Classic jeopardy game with a fun and sexy twist- Fun for all groups Get quizzed on interesting and informative questions on sexual health, identity, expression, pleasure, and sex! ADVANCED SEX JEOPARDY 90 Minutes Proper usage of barrier methods and safer sex practices Take on the challenge as a first-time Sex Jeopardy player or level up with new questions Get quizzed on interesting and informative questions on human sexuality including sexual health, identity, history, birth control, HIV/AIDS, Kink, and health care. GREEK LIFE 90 Minutes Proper usage of barrier methods and safer sex practices Define and discuss consent in various contexts Introduce the topic of intimate relationships, boundaries, preferences, and personal identity Discussion of sexual implications of norms and actions in the campus community and Greek community that do not emphasize consent to challenge rape culture Discussing bystander intervention tactics as well as sexual violence reporting resources BIRTH CONTROL, AUTONOMY, & JUSTICE 90 Minutes Proper usage of barrier methods and safer sex practices Explore various Birth Control Options, Visuals, and Efficacy Facilitate Discussion of various impacts of diverse contraceptive methods Focus on autonomy of choice, communication, and accessibility in relation to reproductive health Identify differences and values among Birth Justice and Reproductive Justice HIV BOOTCAMP 90 Minutes Proper usage of barrier methods and safer sex practices Walkthrough of biological and physiological mechanisms Treatment options including Pre-exposure, Post-exposure Explore the harm and history of stigma surrounding HIV & AIDS Differentiate between HIV & AIDS Discussion of HIV+ status and supporting community members who are positive. 90 Minutes HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS Proper usage of barrier methods and safer sex practices Explore personal identity and asserting personal boundaries Explore different types of relationships and relationship abuse Practice healthy communication tips & techniques Facilitate Conversations on dating/sexual/domestic violence Recognize Different Forms of Abuse Evaluate and reflect on the different kinds of love languages KINK 90 Minutes Proper usage of barrier methods and safer sex practices A Sex-Positive Approach to understanding informed, safe, consensual, kink Overview of sexuality and eroticism Explore and impliment different consent models Discussion of fetishes Explore safety, pleasure, and communication for engaging in KINK & BDSM SEX & HEALING 90 Minutes Proper usage of barrier methods and safer sex practices Introduce what sexual healing is, how trauma affects ones sex life, the different ways to heal from sexual wounds Facilitate space and implement tools for practicing Mindfulness Techniques Understanding and communicating sexual pain and discomfort Practice Advocating for Self and Seeking Help From Healthcare Providers Learn about prevention and alleviation practices against bodily trauma during sexual acts Communicating sexual pain with our partners MASTURBATION 90 Minutes Proper usage of barrier methods and safer sex practices Dispel common myths and shame surrounding masturbation Explore masturbation techniques and types of sex toys and their possible uses Explore how pornography can inform experiences with masturbation, sex, and intimacy Normalize self-stimulation and encourage pleasure-seeking activities

EMPLOYMENT Sex Out Loud maintains hiring periods during both the Fall and Spring semesters. Any UW-Madison student is eligible to apply! Check here for updates on our hiring cycles. We strongly encourage LGBTQ+ persons, people of color, and self-identifying men to apply! POSITIONS PROGRAM FACILITATOR Apply to be a program facilitator! Hours: 10/week Wages: $15/hour The Program Facilitators facilitate the free, fun, interactive, and educational programs (workshops) provided by Sex Out Loud. Program Facilitators travel to dormitories, sororities, fraternities, places of work, places of residence, social gatherings, or other organizations to educate campus and community members on the topics of safer sex, relationships, pleasure, kink, birth control, STIs, HIV/AIDS, LGBTQ health, and any other specialty sexual health topics that may be requested. Program Facilitators are expected to be up-to-date on sexual health information through continuing education and training; successfully create and maintain safe spaces to discuss issues of sexuality; and be prepared to answer any sexual health questions accurately to the best of their ability. Program Facilitators are also required to participate in program development and updating current programs. FINANCIAL COORDINATOR Apply to be financial coordinator in-training! Hours: 10/week Wages: $15/hour The Sex Out Loud Financial Coordinator handles all of the finances of this student organization. Duties include: creating and updating the Sex Out Loud budget; creating and delivering budget proposals in front of SSFC; overseeing all purchases; paying all Sex Out Loud bills and invoices; overseeing staff payroll; attending mandatory SSFC and ASM finance meetings; meeting all SSFC, GSSF, and ASM deadlines by completing and delivering any required forms and paperwork. This position is directly responsible for handing the SSFC paperwork as well as biweekly payroll and purchasing supplies. EVENT COORDINATOR Hours: 11/week Wages: $15/hour Apply to be event coordinator! The Sex Out Loud Events Coordinator plans and implements four major events per year: Condoms and Candy in October, National HIV & Aids Awareness, National Condom Week in February, and Sexual Health Week in April. The Event Coordinator designs activities, invites speakers, plans workshops, and gets access to venues for the events. They are also responsible for designing activities, inviting speakers, planning workshops (event activities), and gaining access to venues for the events. The Event Coordinator is encouraged to use creativity and innovation to expand on past events and collaborate with other student and community groups. This position is responsible for creating events and promoting Sex Out Loud programming to the university enabling students to decide if they wish to utilize Sex Out Loud programming. MARKETING & OUTREACH COORDINATOR Hours: 10/week Wages: $15/hour The marketing and outreach coordinator will be responsible for meeting and networking with the larger campus and city communities to promote Sex Out Loud programming as well as other collaborations.The marketing and outreach coordinator is expected to create flyers and marketing materials to promote Sex Out Loud.The marketing and outreach coordinator is expected to keep the staff current about past, present, and future outreach events. Finally, the marketing and outreach coordinator is expected to maintain the official Sex Out Loud website and all social media platforms. ENGAGEMENT COORDINATOR Hours: 12/week Wages: $15/hour The Sex Out Loud Engagement Coordinator networks with the larger campus and city communities to promote Sex Out Loud programming as well as other collaborations. Their job is to maintain a large presence on campus. This includes promoting Sex Out Loud; maintaining contacts with other student organizations and university branches to collaborate in programming and events; setting up regular ‘tabling sessions’ whenever relevant; and running the volunteer program. CHAIR - PROGRAM COORDINATOR Hours: 16/week Wages: $15/hour The Chair of the Organization is responsible for providing the staff fall and spring training. The chair is expected to provide the staff with other opportunities for ongoing learning and professional development.The chair will also make every effort to provide high quality programming to the wider student and campus community. The chair is responsible for scheduling and booking all programs in a timely and professional manner in addition to helping create new or specialized programming. The chair is responsible for supervising and evaluating the program facilitators. Additionally, the chair is required to fill out RSO Registration documents and GSSF eligibility criteria paperwork on an annual basis.

OUR MISSION & VALUES Sex Out Loud's mission is to promote healthy sexuality through sex-positive education and activism. We acknowledge that each individual's sexuality is uniquely shaped by all facets of identity and experience. We seek to empower all students by providing inclusive and accessible programs, events, and resources, and by creating safe space where students can freely discuss these issues. ​ Stigma reduction | Peer-to-peer | Pleasure-inclusive Consent culture | Inclusivity & Safer Spaces Get Involved Information OUR OFFICE Address 333 East Campus Mall Suite 3143 Madison, WI Contact 608-890-2138 Hours Mon - Fri 10:00 am – 6:00 pm Ask.sexoutloud@gmail.com Ask Us A Question 333 East Campus Mall Suite 3143 Our office is a safe and inclusive space where you can find our trained staff who are always excited to answer your questions! We offer free and confidential peer to peer counseling, a stocked library, board games, free safer sex supplies (including condoms, lube, sex dams, gloves, and more) and, of course, a giant penis pinata!

Promote Safer Sex BECOME A SOL VOLUNTEER Gain first-hand experience in making our programming, holding office hours, tabling, and building friendships across campus. Volunteers also have access to exclusive events/discussions with staff. This is an excellent way to get more involved with Sex Out Loud, expand your knowledge, build your resume, and promote healthy sex & sexuality. REQUIREMENTS Attend 1 Volunteer Orientation/Training (occurs once a semester) Hold 1-2 office hours a week Attend bi-weekly volunteer meetings (flexible) Attend volunteer banquet to celebrate your hard work! OPTIONAL ACTIVITIES Work at tabling events Work on continuing education projects Attend staff/volunteer bonding Create stickers, pamphlets, etc. Email engagement.sexoutloud@gmail.com for more information on ways you can get involved. Mail Create & Learn We encourage volunteers to Research Sexual Health, create sticker designs, and pamphlets. As well as overall being a part of our office community. Attend Volunteer Meetings! Explore topics of interest, participate in group activities and take part in workshops!

TAKE ACTION Looking for ways to take action and support sexual positivity and equality? We've gathered organizations, funds, and petitions that align with our values to make it easy for you to contribute to a better world. Join us in making a difference, one action at a time. "NNAF is a network of 100 abortion funds. Abortion funds are grassroots organizations that support people seeking abortion access. Together, we’re organizing at the crossroads of racial, economic, and reproductive justice." The National Network of Abortion Funds Abortionfunds.org Giving Tuesday for Planned Parenthood Action Fund, support activities to protect and promote reproductive health nationwide. All gifts will be DOUBLED by a generous donor, up to a total of $100,000, until midnight on November 28. Planned Parenthood Action Fund Plannedparenthoodaction.org "Since inception, the organization has been at the forefront of women’s health issues, through comprehensive public education initiatives that promote overall wellness of Black women." The Black Women's Health Imperative bwhi.org SUBMIT A ORGANIZATION OR PETITION Name/Title Enter URL Email OUR MISSION & VALUES Sex Out Loud's mission is to promote healthy sexuality through sex-positive education and activism. We acknowledge that each individual's sexuality is uniquely shaped by all facets of identity and experience. We seek to empower all students by providing inclusive and accessible programs, events, and resources, and by creating safe space where students can freely discuss these issues. ​ ​ Stigma reduction | Peer-to-peer | Pleasure-inclusive Consent culture | Inclusivity & Safer Spaces How does this Organization or petition align with SOL's mission? Submit Thanks for Submitting!

GET INVOLVED Help us to distribute condoms and other safer sex supplies throughout dorms and campus housing! Click for More Condom Conduit Click for More Click for More Click for More Volunteer First-hand experience Holding office hours, tabling, and building friendships across campus! Click for More Employment Sex Out Loud will be hiring for spring semester soon! Check back here for more info. Check out our employment page! Email Engagement.sexoutloud@gmail.com for more!

SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED INFECTIONS STIs are more likely to be passed along when we are too embarrassed to talk about them. We encourage you to help eliminate the stigma around sexuality and STIs by talking to your friends and partners about testing and condoms with confidence, and being accepting and affirming of partners who have an STI. We should get tested 1-2 times a year if we’re in a monogamous relationship and 3-4 times a year if we change partners more often (or just any time we’re worried about it!). MOST COMMON SEXUALLY TRANSMITTED INFECTION Chlamydia Chlamydia is the most common STI at UW-Madison! A bacteria passed along through fluids. Condoms are 98% effective at protecting against the spread of Chlamydia. It can cause clear discharge from the urethra opening of a penis, burning, itching, and scratching. Some people describe it as like“peeing razors”. But is often sneaky and we may have no symptoms at all. We can be tested for free at UHS! Chlamydia is curable with antibiotics, antibiotics cost about $15 with insurance depending on the plan. it's important to Follow the treatment regimen carefully and abstain from sex 7-10 days; even after symptoms go away to make sure it has completely cleared up. ​ What happens when we don’t have health care? ​ The Planned Parenthood (Madison South Health Center) on the south side of madison offers a lot of sexual health services, such as STI testing, pregnancy testing, emergency contraception, and birth control counseling and placement. They accept most insurance, including medicaid, but no one is turned away because of an inability to pay. ​ Lack of insurance - There are a lot of people who have less access to healthcare due to a lack of insurance. This can make seeking out sexual and reproductive health much harder, and it impacts some people more than others. Don’t be afraid to advocate for your health and learn resources in your community; there are always people willing to help.

PREGNANCY FAQ Whether an exciting and intentional decision or completely unexpected, a pregnancy in college can raise many anxieties, fears, and questions as we make decisions which feel best for us moving forward. Below we provide some answers to some of the most commonly asked pregnancy-related questions asked by UW Madison students! There are no wrong answers in this journey! No matter what decision you make in your pregnancy, know that you are respected, supported, and fought for by Sex Out Loud. How do I know if i'm pregnant? Will UW Madison Help me? Will I qualify for government aid? How do I choose a doctor? What is a birth plan, and how do I develop mine? Title IX protects you! ​ Title IX protects members of our campus community from discrimination against pregnant and parenting students on the basis of sex. A full list of protections can be found here!​ Pregnant and parenting student rights include: 1. equal access to schools and activities 2. to choose to participate in separate programs for pregnant or parenting students 3. to be excused for absences due to pregnancy or childbirth for as long as is deemed medically necessary by the student's physician 4. To attend class and school activities without submitting a doctor's note ​ A non-exhaustive list of accommodations: parking permits, elevator keys, backdated withdrawals, incompletes, extended deadlines, excused absences. IF YOU ARE IN NEED OF MORE INFORMATION REGARDING RESOURCES REACH OUT TO SOL VIA EMAIL, SOCIAL MEDIA, OR IN PERSON

Lube, Lube, Lube The Wetter the Better! Deciding which lube is the best is really a matter of personal preference and figuring out what you want to get out of your slippery sexual experience. WATER BASED Water-based lubrication is the most basic and generally the least expensive variety of lubrication. It is made by many different brands, so it is easy to find and it is a good place to start if you are just beginning your experimentation with lube. Simply add some lube to whatever you want and slip and slide away, but keep the lube bottle handy because water-based lubrication often requires reapplication. Water-based lubrication can be cleaned relatively easily with plain water, no soap required, and it also won't stain sheets or clothing if a spill should occur. One thing to keep in mind if you decide to use water-based lube is that many varieties—such as K-Y, Wet, and Astroglide—contain glycerin (sugar) and if you or whoever is going to be using the lube is prone to yeast infections, it will be worth your time to find a brand or type that is glycerin-free. Some water-based lubrication that do not have glycerin as an ingredient are Liquid Silk and Play. Other lubes that are water-based can be flavored. Flavored lube is for ORAL use only. There is a great deal more sugar in flavored lubrication, so it is in your best interest to keep them involved in oral situations only. ​ At the Sex Out Loud office we carry the following brands:​ Slippery Stuff One Oasis Good Clean Love, Vegan Lube SILICONE BASED Silicone-based lubrication is really great if you are looking for a lubricant that is going to last for a long time. This is an "apply it and it's there until you wash it off" sort of lube. Silicone-based lube is great for anal sex because it is long lasting and you won't risk a water-based lubricant drying up. Silicone lube is not for use with silicone toys because the enzymes that keep the silicone a liquid at room temperature will bind to the silicone toy and literally melt it. Silicone-based lubrication is also not the lube to use when you have your favorite sheets on your bed because this lube will stain if it gets onto fabric. But don't let that deter you because silicone is a great lube to try, just lay a towel down and get to it! ​ At the Sex Out Loud Office, we carry the following brands: One Move Velvet Backslide: Anal Formula LUBE WE CARRY *Descriptions from suppliers Almost Naked "delivers a smooth, long-lasting experience. So much so that it’s the top-selling organic lubricant in the U.S.* Almost Naked is water-based with silky, organic aloe that reduces irritation and enhances pleasure. It’s formulated to work with your body, not against it - pH balanced and with a touch of beneficial lactic acid. Almost Naked is also iso-osmolar. It won’t harm sensitive tissue or strip your natural moisture and leave you feeling dry or irritated." ONE, Oasis Silk ​Premium hybrid lubricant specially formulated to contain optimal amounts of both water and silicone to provide the advantages of both experiences. Longer lasting and silky. Easy to clean. pH balanced to match natural lubrication. Tested and proven compatible with silicone toys. Compatible with latex and polyisoprene condoms. Leaves skin smooth and hydrated. Developed with doctors and sexual health experts. Oasis Silk may be used during sex or anytime to alleviate discomfort and dryness. ONE, Oasis Silky, gentle formulation for more enjoyable intimate contact. Made from the finest quality ingredients Compatible with natural rubber latex, polyisoprene, and polyurethane condoms Waterbased, oil-free lubricant for easy clean up Leaves skin hydrated and smooth Überlube "High-end luxury lubricant. Instead of just being slippery, Überlube is designed to transfer sensation while reducing friction. Überlube feels amazingly silky and performs as long as you’re using it. When Überlube stops being manipulated, it starts to dissipate, leaving skin soft and moisturized, never wet or sticky." Slippery Stuff "Slippery Stuff Gel is made with a special paraben and glycerin-free formula - making it safer for people with sensitive skin and allergies. Using a revolutionary new preservative derived from grains and plants, this all-purpose lube is specially blended to feel like your body’s own natural juices. And it's just as sleek and long-lasting as ever! The extra-thick gel is great for almost anything, including backdoor penetration, fun in the shower, toy play and marathon-long sex! ​ Sippery Stuff is a water-based lube so you can use it safely with all types of condoms and sex toys." Backslide Thick, cushiony, smooth, and long lasting; ID Backslide is the perfect formula for anal sex and pleasure. This unique silicone lubricant not only has super slip, but also contains clove and spilanthes that act as a mild muscle relaxant. This makes penetration easier, but doesn't dull any of the pleasure. It's not only one of the best anal lubricants available, but also one of the thickest. As anal sex becomes more and more popular, Backslide is here to make it the best experience for everyone. Now couples can enjoy mutual pleasure without any of the difficulties, discomfort, or pain. Backslide can also be used as a vaginal lubricant, or for anything else you feel like lubricating. Backslide is clear, tasteless, and odourless. It's also latex compatible, so it's safe to use with most condoms. ONE, Oasis Silk a super-long lasting silicone personal lubricant. Made from the finest quality ingredients. Compatible with natural rubber latex, polyisoprene, and polyurethane condoms. Waterless & oil-free